This is what breeds the confidence of rapists and makes them think they can do it again and again. This is how we come to live in a society where 1 in 10 women will be raped. It is concerning to discover that the majority of rapists are serial rapists, because they did it before and their were no negative consequences for them they assume that what they did wasn’t bad or something they are entitled to.
Overall there is an over whelming weight of concerns that dissuade victims from reporting:
- Concern for not being believed
- Fear of the attackers getting back at her
- Embarrassment or shame
- Fear of being blamed
- Pressure from others not to tell
- Distrust of law enforcement
- Not wanting to have to relive the situation through prosecution proceedings.
- Belief that there is not enough evidence
- Desire to protect the attacker
For those that do report the crime only 5.7% will result in a conviction mainly because of a lack of evidence. Frequently the rapists can argue that it was consensual rough sex and it is his word against the victim. When victims are told their case probably won’t result in conviction they drop the case, choosing not take the risk of retaliation or dealing the stigma of being a victim. So the vast majority of rapists whose victims went as far as reporting the crime don’t even hear from the police, let alone get arrested or go to trial.
It is heartbreaking when victims discover that the guy who violated them has done it many, many times before but nothing was done. They think “Why didn’t the previous victims say anything?” “Why did I have to go through this ordeal?” “Why wasn’t I warned?” “Why didn’t someone say?”
The point of this article is not to shame the victims who did nothing, we understand why they didn’t, but rather the goal is to point out that all women have a responsibility to themselves and each other to be part of a solution and not become another victim and an inadvertent contributor. Not just so they can protect themselves but to protect their friends, their sisters, their daughters both now and in the future.